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Sex and Writing – Nobody Teaches You How to do it Well!

Isn’t writing a lot like sex? Think about it. For those of you struggling with the writing life, we are groomed to speak and write the ‘Queen’s English‘ throughout our school years, but who teaches us how to do it well (as in get published)? When we are young, we get the obligatory ‘sex talk’ and may even get sex ed in school, but again, who teaches us to do it well (as in get…well, you know…)?

I know, experience and repetition. But there are shortcuts to better writing getting published (and better sex for that matter, but not on this blog…) available to us today. We have a populace that is interconnected like no generation in the history of mankind. I can talk, face to face, with anyone in any country that has an internet connection – for free.

Ok, so the ‘for free’ statement is not totally accurate. There’s the cost of electricity, internet service, the computer and camera with which to connect, and probably a host of other insidious expenses. But from our perspective today, the call is free. We can speak as long as we like. Heck, my daughter talks with her friends, one from England and one in Las Vegas, at the same time on ooVoo (similar to Skype, only better in my opinion…).

Ok, so we can string a good story together, make it into a novel – then what? Yes, a plethora of publishing options that make even those of us in the industry shake our heads and go, “Huh?” Who teaches the novelist what to do with their craft?

No one. Who taught Don Juan or Cassanova (or their real life counterparts) how to make love? Many women that came before the notoriety, that’s who. For the writer, their first books teach what to do and what not to do and what can be done better.

Still, this is a very crazy way for people to learn, is it not? In this age where everything is available to everyone with internet connection, you would think there would be definitive teaching institutions who regale students with the proper steps in writing, publishing, marketing and promoting their books.

I see workshops all over the Master of Arts landscape. I also hear quite a bit about MFA grads struggling to make it in the writing world because of ego or too technical of a writing style.

One of the reasons publishing marketing and promoting is not well organized and taught in my humble opinion is that the creative muse flees rigid order in our most creative folk. Creativity needs to live and breathe in freedom and non-restriction. To create this environment, the writer must be able to reach a ‘peace’ in solitude where he or she can connect with their muse. Thus, writers often do not make good business decisions. Publishing, marketing and promotion are all business concepts.

Do you begin to see the difficulty in teaching this? To run the sex analogy again, some people like a soft touch, others a more assertive touch. The varying personalities of men and women deliver a range of sexual experience that can cover incredible differences and nuances. This means what works for one, won’t necessarily work for another. Finding that mate where everything works together well is important to us – and there is no way of ‘knowing’ this.

When we get our book to a finished product, we know it. Real scientific, eh? Your best writing comes when you let go – fear, critic, judge, peer pressure, bias, etc. But what happens once the mate has been selected (the book is written)? Most writers bumble their way through the publishing landscape, many getting fleeced along the way.

The suggestion here is that you consider forming a small focus writing group. That’s what the Rogues Gallery Writers are. We banded together and learn collectively. Writers should educate themselves. One of the best ways to do this is with three or four other people of like mind who need to learn as well. You accelerate your learning curve. We each look at the publishing process from slightly different angles. We share knowledge collected from our unique perspectives. We each then, have a baseline for making publishing, marketing and promotion decisions.

Do not go into writing thinking all you’re going to do is write. Realize this is a business. Hedge your bet with trusted writing partners who will walk through the crazy writing-life-landscape with you. You must be careful to select people who are of like mind, ie, focused on getting published. Stay away from people who are looking for a social hour or just in it for fun. Those folk should join their own respective groups of people. If you’re serious about getting published, find a few good people who feel the same and work together.The rewards are great!

For those of you wishing to continue the sex analogy, I stop here. I would not advocate where some of your minds are going…


Posted by on November 27, 2011 in The Rogues Gallery Writers


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Award Winning Story Rewarded

The short story Why Me? by Rogue Michael Ray King won first place in the Royal Palm Literary Awards for best unpublished short story in October 2010. Early this month the story was included in the Kindle release of the short story collection More Writing is Easy put out by ClearView Press Inc.

More Writing is Easy came about from short stories that did not make the larger collection Writing is Easy because of timing issues. This inexpensive collection ($2.99) shows off some excellent writing chops. Beware of Rip Tides (Rogue Jeff Swesky) will make your eyes water with laughter. A couple other stories by Rebekah Hunter Scott deliver top quality short story reads.

Why Me? is an attempt by Michael to write something sexy. Here’s his take on the writing of the story:

“I had written a number of short stories with intimate love scenes, attempting to get a little more ‘base’ than I typically write. I got tired of people telling me my love scenes were very ‘tastefully done’. I suppose that is a compliment, but what I was looking for was something a bit more gritty. Not graphic, gratuitous sex, but sex with an edge. I’ll never forget the first reading of Why Me?. Tracy was sitting across from me and a couple paragraphs in she started fanning herself and halfway through she was blushing. I couldn’t have been more pleased. I finally nailed down a sexy story that had some punch. The funny thing is, I chickened out on putting the story in the book “Writing is Easy”. Then a friend who’d read it encouraged me to enter it in the RPLA’s. I did it on a whim. When they announced it took top honors in the Unpublished Short Story category – the toughest category to win in my opinion, you could have knocked me over with a silk teddy. That award and the RPLA for my book Fatherhood 101 are beyond special. Sometimes I have to take the award out and look at it to reassure myself it wasn’t a dream.”

You can get your copy of More Writing is Easy from Kindle

MORE Writing is Easy

or directly from ClearView Press Inc.’s site as a PDF download. Either way, you’ll get a face-full of the Rogues Gallery Writers that you’ll never forget. We believe it’s always rewarding when excellent fiction gets published. In Why Me?‘s case, the reward got doubled…

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Posted by on February 28, 2011 in The Rogues Gallery Writers


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